I had a string of rejections recently from girls who I gave a card to. These girls contacted me, but I managed to turn them off with my responses. My pickup advisor told me that I have to make it more exciting for them. Yep, it’s the same old unfortunate truth – you can’t just be ‘normal’ in these abnormal situations – you have to continue the excitement you started.
So, I tried to make things really fun for one girl who contacted me after I gave her my card. It ended in a great date. My card doesn’t include my phone number, so it started with an email:
Her: Hey! It’s X, we met last night, do you remember me? I want to hear your band! It was nice meeting you, let’s keep in touch!
Me: Of course I remember you, you’re my favourite mysterious stranger 😉
Here’s my band: [I sent a link – a video with 800 views- I’m not famous]
You had a very naughty look on your face when I left you on Friday…not sure if that’s a good thing or bad thing 😉 [complete bullshit..but I had to throw some push-pull in there]
Her: My smile was definitely a good thing! Your band is great, love the singing and guitar playing! Yes it was very mysterious…I ran into you twice and then I see you again!
Me: Glad you like it. Well, if we’re going to keep running into each other, maybe we should get to know each other better! Are you free Thursday for a drink?
Her: Yes I’m free! Let me know where, I’m looking forward to this mystery! Here’s my number..
Me: The adventure begins at the drunken monkey, Shoreditch, Thursday at 8pm…we will drink cocktails and talk in secret code..
[later, by text] Me: All good for tonight senorita?
Her: Yes…tonight will be the night of mystery!
Me: Excellent! Remember the secret password is “sexy wizard”
Her: Ok! Password is sexy wizard!
Look at the excitement it creates when you keep your answers short, decisive and mysterious! You can tell from the email how much she was looking forward to the date. Obviously the stage was set by the initial interaction, but these small things make a huge difference.
This is EXACTLY the dynamic that should be in place for a fun date. My date with her went really well and she later told me she loved the ‘mystery’ talk.